{"id":3593,"date":"2025-08-15T09:04:00","date_gmt":"2025-08-15T13:04:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/laholmberg.com\/?p=3593"},"modified":"2025-08-15T09:10:21","modified_gmt":"2025-08-15T13:10:21","slug":"stuck-in-comfortable","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/laholmberg.com\/?p=3593","title":{"rendered":"Are you comfortable?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The thing about being comfortable is that it sneaks up on you, embracing you in a blanketed coziness of familiarity, blurring your awareness that <strong>I&#8217;m<b>.\u00a0<\/b>Not<b>.\u00a0<\/b>Moving<b>.\u00a0<\/b>Forward<b>.<\/b>\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Um, sorry. I didn&#8217;t seem to notice. I was justsadamn\u00a0<i>comfortable&#8230;\u00a0<\/i><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><a href=\"https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Steven_Pressfield\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Steven Pressfield<\/a>\u00a0says,\u00a0<i>&#8220;The more important an activity is to your soul&#8217;s evolution, the more resistance you will feel.&#8221;\u00a0<\/i>In my own experience and the many shared experiences of others, I have found this to be true nearly 100% of the time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">In the challenges we are most afraid to take on, the endeavors we believe are bigger than us, or any feat we nearly convince ourselves is beyond our reach, we <strong>find the key <\/strong>to our\u00a0<i>next level.\u00a0<\/i><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">I can&#8217;t tell you what&#8217;s on your next level, or mine for that matter, but I can tell you for sure that I want to get there and I have made it a priority to get, gulp,\u00a0<b><a href=\"https:\/\/laholmberg.com\/2017\/10\/05\/freezing-my-balls-off-in-a-cold-shower\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">uncomfortable<\/a>.<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">What that means will be different for each of us. It could mean <\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>pushing yourself differently in your workout <\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>leaving a comfortable but spirit-crushing job <\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>going balls to the wall doing something that you enjoy but are not good at (yes, fellow perfectionists out there: you don&#8217;t have to be an ace at something to enjoy it!) <\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>starting a new business <\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>removing yourself from relationships that deplete you <\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>and anything else that requires you to\u00a0<b><span style=\"color:#ff0000\">stand in your truth<\/span>.\u00a0<\/b><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">If there&#8217;s one area you are going to encounter resistance, it will be when you begin to stand in your truth, and it&#8217;s for the very reason Steven Pressfield stated above:\u00a0<b>it&#8217;s important to your soul&#8217;s evolution.\u00a0<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Are you ready to kick it into high gear and get uncomfortable? <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Only you can pinpoint the areas where resistance is present and push back accordingly. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">If you&#8217;re scratching your head and son-of-a-bitching me right now because you believe you don&#8217;t have a clue as to where in your life you&#8217;ve become comfortable, relax and<em> breathe<\/em>. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">If you are a\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/www.how-to-meditate.org\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">meditator<\/a>, you know how to go within for your answers. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">If you are a person who\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Prayer\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">prays<\/a>, pray for guidance in seeing what your eyes are not showing you. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">If you are a person who all of this sounds <em>a little too woo-woo <\/em>for, get outside and take a walk\/run\/hike\/swim and clear your mind. Go on a silent retreat, as<a href=\"https:\/\/arthurbrooks.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"> Arthur Brooks <\/a>suggests, armed with <a href=\"https:\/\/bigthink.com\/smart-skills\/the-meaning-of-life-isnt-a-puzzle-to-solve\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">the 3 questions of why.<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><span style=\"color:#0000ff\"><a href=\"https:\/\/laholmberg.com\/2024\/11\/16\/cant-get-going-try-this\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"><span style=\"color:#800080\">Don&#8217;t think, don&#8217;t feel, just get<\/span>.<\/a><\/span> See what comes to you. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You&#8217;re not on the clock. Your answers unfold in their own time simply by <strong>being open to and present for them.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>The thing about being comfortable is that it sneaks up on you, embracing you in a blanketed coziness of familiarity, blurring your awareness that I&#8217;m.\u00a0Not.\u00a0Moving.\u00a0Forward.\u00a0 Um, sorry. I didn&#8217;t seem to notice. 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