The Secret to Lasting Change

This will be easy, but I'm going to whisper it for dramatic effect: there is no secret. Now don't run off in a huff, thinking I've misled you with my post title and you've arrived here only to waste your valuable time. I have the answer you're looking for, it's just that it's not a secret. None … Continue reading The Secret to Lasting Change

Counting On Spam

Got borders and boundaries? As hard as I've worked to instill these necessary behavioral guardrails, every so often I will be made aware that my practice of  "waiting in the cupboard" has resurfaced. If this is one of your challenges as well, simply picture the blue can and remember: you’re NOBODY’S spam. Sometimes we just … Continue reading Counting On Spam

It’s Valentine’s Day. Again.

Ironically, Valentine's Day is by far my most disdained holiday and yet I'm almost always inclined to post about it. I take that back. It's actually not ironic at all that a solution seeking person such as myself is all up in this business of Valentine's Day, poking and prodding, eyeballing it from this angle … Continue reading It’s Valentine’s Day. Again.

I require NOTHING (from YOU)

Attempting to force our will on another becomes unnecessary once we acknowledge and utilize our freedom in exclusively placing our energy only where it serves us in an optimal manner. I've taken to repeating the mantra, "I require NOTHING!" Okay, full disclosure: sometimes I need to shout it so that it really sinks into my … Continue reading I require NOTHING (from YOU)