What you see is not who you are

https://youtu.be/xPAat-T1uhE The above clip, which happens to come from one of my favorite actors in one of my most favorite movies, is one that is near and dear to me. I can tell you honestly that I am not surprised by the depth of his epiphany or the sincerity in which he professes its effect on his … Continue reading What you see is not who you are

The Secret to Lasting Change

This will be easy, but I'm going to whisper it for dramatic effect: there is no secret. Now don't run off in a huff, thinking I've misled you with my post title and you've arrived here only to waste your valuable time. I have the answer you're looking for, it's just that it's not a secret. None … Continue reading The Secret to Lasting Change

Counting On Spam

Got borders and boundaries? As hard as I've worked to instill these necessary behavioral guardrails, every so often I will be made aware that my practice of  "waiting in the cupboard" has resurfaced. If this is one of your challenges as well, simply picture the blue can and remember: you’re NOBODY’S spam. Sometimes we just … Continue reading Counting On Spam

It’s Valentine’s Day. Again.

Ironically, Valentine's Day is by far my most disdained holiday and yet I'm almost always inclined to post about it. I take that back. It's actually not ironic at all that a solution seeking person such as myself is all up in this business of Valentine's Day, poking and prodding, eyeballing it from this angle … Continue reading It’s Valentine’s Day. Again.

I require NOTHING (from YOU)

Attempting to force our will on another becomes unnecessary once we acknowledge and utilize our freedom in exclusively placing our energy only where it serves us in an optimal manner. I've taken to repeating the mantra, "I require NOTHING!" Okay, full disclosure: sometimes I need to shout it so that it really sinks into my … Continue reading I require NOTHING (from YOU)

What’s your time loop lesson?

I prefer to view my life as some sort of a show or film in perpetual development rather than some irksome idea of reality that's so emphatically forced on us at every turn. Carrie Fisher summed it up: "I don't want life to imitate art. I want life to BE art." Yes. What she said. … Continue reading What’s your time loop lesson?