What you see is not who you are

https://youtu.be/xPAat-T1uhE The above clip, which happens to come from one of my favorite actors in one of my most favorite movies, is one that is near and dear to me. I can tell you honestly that I am not surprised by the depth of his epiphany or the sincerity in which he professes its effect on his … Continue reading What you see is not who you are

The Secret to Lasting Change

This will be easy, but I'm going to whisper it for dramatic effect: there is no secret. Now don't run off in a huff, thinking I've misled you with my post title and you've arrived here only to waste your valuable time. I have the answer you're looking for, it's just that it's not a secret. None … Continue reading The Secret to Lasting Change

Counting On Spam

Got borders and boundaries? As hard as I've worked to instill these necessary behavioral guardrails, every so often I will be made aware that my practice of  "waiting in the cupboard" has resurfaced. If this is one of your challenges as well, simply picture the blue can and remember: you’re NOBODY’S spam. Sometimes we just … Continue reading Counting On Spam

It’s Valentine’s Day. Again.

Ironically, Valentine's Day is by far my most disdained holiday and yet I'm almost always inclined to post about it. I take that back. It's actually not ironic at all that a solution seeking person such as myself is all up in this business of Valentine's Day, poking and prodding, eyeballing it from this angle … Continue reading It’s Valentine’s Day. Again.