Are you being especially challenged right now? I’m going to tell you frankly that as a person strongly affected by the ebb and flow of the collective energy, I’ve been staggering in the past, oh let’s say, 24 days or so, trying to gain a foothold. Today the universe reminded me that the surest way to find my way back to solid ground is by moving in the knowing that solid ground is there, regardless of whether I can “see” it or not. I was also reminded that I chose the “Ultimate Lesson Learner Package” before being born for more about that click HERE and that we are seen even when we feel invisible, and loved even when we feel at our least lovable. Write that down and pocket it for when you need it. 💖

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Never better! is your answer.

Were you wondering what the question was? The question is (drumroll here for effect) How are you? 

That’s it. 

Never better are the only two words you actually ever need to reply when somebody casually asks you how you are. Sound nuts or harsh to you? Good! Your deprogramming has begun…

If you are a person who automatically answers, fine or doing great, when asked how you are and are perplexed that there are people who interpret those words as anything other than a greeting disguised as a question, consider yourself blessed.

This next statement is not for you because you already figured it out long ago- lucky you!

Why should you declare nothing but never better when asked how you are? 

Because nobody really cares how you “are“. 

That may sound harsh to you, but if you haven’t yet realized that fact, somebody needed to give you an ice-water-to-the-face reality check and it may as well be me.

You’ll thank me later, I can assure you. 

Don’t go getting a weepy, poor me attitude about nobody caring for you. It’s not about that. It’s about you caring for you- first and foremost by understanding that there is rarely a good reason to spout off a list of your aches, pains, and various assorted troubles to a random acquaintance or people you are rarely in contact with.

It drains from your energy- surreptitiously robbing you of your power.

And while it may be more understandable if you’re engaging in meaningful conversation with a person you’re close to, it still may be a good idea to mindfully choose your words.

Why?

Because nobody is listening to your words as intently as you are and you are believing them and moving in the energy they leave in their wake.

Going on at length about your inadequacies, insufficiencies, aches, pains, and other misfortunes threatens to bring down the energy of all involved- especially yourself, and disempower yourself in the process.

You believe what you’re hearing and your life takes its shape from that– slowly and seemingly silently, but always surely.

Reinforce the positive and you’ll bring in more of the positive. Wallow in the negative, and well- you guessed it.

Saying never better is not about being fake, or feigning false positivity (which is rarely conducive in bringing forth empowered energy) but instead operating in an energy of faith that good things are in the process of coming your way. 

Is this always easy to do, especially during difficult times when you’ve got a dam within that threatens to burst and spill over onto the first person who shows even the slightest bit of interest in your current state?

Hell no!

Would I need to develop all these mantras, affirmations, scripted answers, reframing methods, and other coaching mechanisms to train myself with if it was? 😁

Whether it’s the muscles of the body you’re building or the muscles of your being, one indisputable fact holds true: you must show up each day willing to do the work, regardless of the degree of difficulty involved. 

That’s your role.

And it’s a role you’re much more likely to fulfill by believing in your capacity to do so.

Don’t expect this belief to “come naturally”. You must coach yourself into empowered belief by speaking to and about yourself with the same encouraging words that you’d pay someone else to coach you with.

As Joyce Meyer says: “You can be pitiful or powerful, but you can’t be both.”

Let’s choose power. DAILY. On purpose. By coaching ourselves into it. Raising the collective vibe and empowering others in the process. Because WE CAN.

So, how am I doing?

Never better, friend. Never better.

I just needed some reminding.