I prefer to view my life as some sort of a show or film in perpetual development rather than some irksome idea of reality that’s so emphatically forced on us at every turn. Carrie Fisher summed it up: “I don’t want life to imitate art. I want life to BE art.” Yes. What she said. Me too. And naturally I haven’t forgotten about the rest of you. Same thing goes. I believe we’ve all got our own shows going on. And we’re the stars! But the best part? It IS art! And art provides messages. To those who choose to see it that way, of course. I do so choose.
The loop movie concept has been thrown in my lap so much lately that I couldn’t help but pay attention. From Groundhog Day to The 12 Dates of Christmas, to Before I Fall, I love a good time loop theme. Though I ordinarily stay away from “slasher” films, the lure of the time loop enticed me into succumbing to not only Happy Death Day, but also it’s sequel, Happy Death Day 2U at my daughter’s insistence that, given it was PG-13 and not R, I would be able to handle it. No spoilers– I can safely assure you she was right.
The one consistent in every loop movie, as I see it, is that the universe is giving the main character an opportunity to right something in their life that has caused them to become stuck. The character generally is slow in not only realizing that they are indeed, stuck in any sense of their life, but also that they are in any way responsible for their inability to move forward. So the universe gives them the gift of hitting the rewind button on a crucial day of their life and allowing them to relive it over and over and over again until they finally get it. This takes a substantial amount of time as we watch the main character’s emotions shift from puzzlement, to denial, to anger, to acceptance, and finally resolution as they eventually come to realize that THEY are their own way out. Yes Dorothy- you always had the power!
There was a time when it would amaze me that the main character couldn’t “see” in themselves what was almost always excruciatingly obvious to the viewer. I was humbled- painfully so, I might add– when I reached a point in my life when my true soul training began and I realized that I was that ignorant main character, wandering around in a clueless fog, blaming my situation on the circumstances, other people, bad luck, or whatever my rationalization of the day happened to be, for the state I’d gotten myself “stuck” in. This is the type of awakening that you don’t just become aware of one day and master the next. As in the movies, you’ve got to keep waking yourself up day after day and choosing to live a little bit more effectively than you did the day before, focusing on the process instead of the outcome, moving in faith that you’ll eventually reach the next level on your journey.
You may be wondering what any of this has to do with you, since you’re probably fairly certain that Groundhog’s Day will only come once each year for you. If so, I urge you to look again and pay attention to ALL that is shown to you repeatedly. The co-worker who ruffles your feathers on a daily basis. The number on the scale that continues to go up. The house in a constant state of chaos that leaves you stressed and anxious. The spouse who you’ve been having the same tired arguments over the same tired topics for a multitude of tired years. The nightly glass of wine that has turned into 2, then 3, then a bigger glass. The anger that results regularly from other drivers, shoppers, family members, co-workers, etc…*pay close attention to that KEY WORD ‘others‘ and when you believe “they” are your problem remind yourself of this apt phrase from Dr. Phil: “there’s something about that ol’ boy I don’t like about myself.”* THIS is your Groundhog Day. SEE what it is attempting to show you! Or you can continue to sleepwalk through your life, making it about somebody/something else, while you continue to do what you’ve always done, consistently winding up in the same place, waking up the next day to do it all again. This is YOUR show. How you choose to spin it is up to you.