“But how will I do this when you’re not here to make me do it?” This is an understandable question regarding working out from a client whose time period with a trainer is about to come to its end. For some, it’s an easy answer: don’t stop working with your trainer and you’ll never have to find out. I, on the other hand, who has a tendency to go my own way, will not give you that answer. As Nanny McPhee so eloquently summed it up:
“There is something you should understand about the way I work. When you need me but do not want me, then I must stay. When you want me but no longer need me, then I have to go. It’s rather sad, really, but there it is.”
Like I said, this may not seem a logical philosophy for a fitness trainer to embrace. After all, if we’re talking about making money, wouldn’t it be wiser for me to encourage clients to keep me on indefinitely? I’m performing a service and they’re benefiting from it, so what’s the problem? It’s not a problem for many and there’s no shame in that. As I just said- a trainer is performing a service and it’s an individual preference if a client wants to stay with a trainer on a permanent basis. That’s the mission of many trainers and they are able to positively impact the lives of countless individuals this way. But that’s not my mission, though it took time to finally come to grips with that understanding and stand in my truth, recognizing that my focus would come to be more about mind/body/life coaching than training, and while nutrition and exercise is always at the core of it, it’s not all of it. Do I want my clients to aspire to eat healthfully, exercise, and have the body of their dreams? Absolutely. But my higher mission is to encourage the emergence of their individual empowered energy. Simply put, my goal is to aid you in arriving to the place where you fully comprehend that you have everything you need within to get yourself the life and body that you want. Once we’ve done that- YOU DON’T NEED ME. Picture it this way: you’re learning to drive but you don’t have a licence. Your trainer is the “parent” driving with you where you need to go until you understand the rules of the road and are confident in your execution of them. Once you get your license, you no longer need the parent in your car- you are fully capable of driving alone. That said, what you will need is fuel. THAT is what will keep you humming along, motivating you to continue to do what you’ve aspired to do- that which you are fully capable of achieving on your own. But you need to find what fuels you and tap into it. For me, music is at the top of my list. (We’ll explore others in future posts) A good playlist gets me fired up or winding down. It gets me out of my head and into a space where the energy is one of “I’ve GOT this” If you’re looking to fuel up, get out of your head and forget whatever your worries of the day may be (you do realize worrying is a complete waste of your energy though, don’t you? Okay- we’ll get to that in another post…) you will find my playlists here. For now, I leave you with some words of inspiration. If you’re surprised by the source, I ask you to open your mind. Additional fuel becomes more readily available that way 🙂
‘Cause sometimes you just feel tired,
Feel weak, and when you feel weak, you feel like you wanna just give up.
But you gotta search within you, you gotta find that inner strength
And just pull that shit out of you and get that motivation to not give up
And not be a quitter, no matter how bad you wanna just fall flat on your face and collapse.